1. Make sure your own life’s on track
Are you the exciting vital person you were when you married? If not, why not? Recreate your “Life Before Mate” identity that sparked the relationship initially. It takes two happy healthy people to have a happy healthy relationship.
2. Rebuild Trust
The spark can die when one partner feels hurt by the other because the trust is damaged. Whether or not one mate intentionally hurt the other or not, the issue needs to be discussed and resolved to both people’s satisfaction. Make a vow that the two of you will discuss your issues on a regular basis (or with a therapist) until there is resolution.
3. Plan your future together
Most couples are busy following a script written by their parents. Don’t follow their script. Instead work together and create your own set of guidelines and goals for your future.
4. Be emotionally honest in your conversation
Don’t protect your mate from your bad feelings. When you do, you build a wall of resentment inside yourself that won’t let your feelings of love come through. Share, and be sure your mate shares, and then really listen so you can hear what he or she is telling you.
5. Make romance a priority
Schedule regular dates with each other. Constantly look for new ways to bond. Look for ways to have fun. Remind your mate what it is you love about him or her. Become a mutual admiration society.
For more information on this topic, purchase Carolyn Bushong’s book Bring Back The Man You Fell In Love With.
Go to these pages:
Page 122 for “Passion Killer’s: What Turns Women Off”
Page 133 for “How Women Can Start to Become Sexual Again.”