1. Make a Relationship Resolution to resolve all issues that you repeatedly fight about.
Unresolved issues create resentment and resentment erodes a relationship over time. Instead of trying to prove how right you are (even if you are), focus on a solution that respects both opinions.
2. Make a Relationship Resolution to have at least one date night a week.
Don’t talk about work or kids on date night, only discuss the two of you. Pretend you’re actually dating instead of married. Share interesting stories and try to seduce your mate with romance and conversation.
3. Make a Relationship Resolution to promise to tell your mate what you want.
Often our friends, co-workers or family know more about what we want from our mate than he or she knows. Your mate can’t give you what you want unless they know what it is. What are your goals in life, what do you hope for in the relationship, what do you want? Speak up!
4. Make a Relationship Resolution to equalize the relationship.
Out-of-balance relationships, where one person has most of the control and the other allows it, is the major cause of divorce (although it’s never listed as that). If you’re the controlling partner, become vulnerable and share your fears and insecurities with your mate and hand off some of the power. If you’re in the powerless position, stand up to your mate and let him or her know that you want a healthy relationship and that changes are necessary.
5. Make a Relationship Resolution to spend more quality time together alone.
That means no relatives, friends, or even children are invited. The only goal is to strengthen the “we” bond, which will strengthen the relationship and improve your personal happiness, and happiness as a couple. Set a consequence (punishment) for yourselves if either of you don’t keep the commitment.
6. Make a Relationship Resolution to get marriage counseling or personal therapy if either of you are not happy with the relationship or yourselves.
If one of you is shut down or you’re less intimate or romantic than you once were or wish you were, get help and take care of it now before you allow it to get worse.